Lately, there has been a trend of men telling women how to become more of a woman. There are podcasts, TikTok's, YouTube, a full Facebook post of men telling women what they are doing wrong because men don't think we are "feminine" enough. Although it's not just men, women also make full videos on how "masculine" the woman has become in today's society.
Most times, I chop it up to be either insecurity or control. Most times it is a mixture of both and I keep moving but this time it's different. People are bolder than ever to tell a woman how to be a woman. The red pill community has taken over for the 99 and the 2000's. So, the question I want to know is what is the problem?
Why do we feel it is necessary to tell women how to act or behave? I think part of it is tradition. Traditionally, we have set roles for each gender and expect each gender to follow that role. Then when a person decides not to follow that role, we punish them by dehumanizing them in any way possible. Whether that be telling a man he is weak or calling a woman hoe. We as a society manage to tear them down as much as we build them up. I think what we never took into consideration was change.
The way we started as humans was necessary for survival. Today though, survival looks different. Women are waiting a lot longer now to get married and have children. Most women want to be financially stable before they start a family. Women want to be able to depend on themselves without needing to depend on any other person. You see that with the degrees, new business adventures, buying properties, women are doing all these things without needing a man's help. That is all great but where does that leave the man? Men have been taught to be the breadwinner and the head of the household. When you take those things away, where does that leave the man?
The Kevin Samuels of the internet comes from the lack of feeling like you are not needed. The red pill community comes the feeling of not being needed. It seems as if women being too independent has become too much for men. So, they've found creative ways to tell women "stay in your place" without saying it. The question that has been pose to women lately is "what do you bring to the table" and somehow you're not supposed to mention some accomplishments. Yet when you ask men the same question, they are more than happy to talk about what they have accomplished.
I say all of that to say that we have to stop pressuring women into the image society wants them to be. At the end of the day, women have dreams and aspirations too. A woman following her dreams does not make her less feminine. A woman asserting herself does not make her less feminine. A woman setting standards for what she wants in a man does not make her less feminine. A woman is going to be naturally feminine no matter what she does. Even if she doesn't fit your image of what a woman should be.
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